Having a child with craniofacial differences is hard. People don't mean to but they judge. There is an assumption that people who look different are different. Even having a child who looks different, I have to fight against the human instinct to judge by appearance in the privacy of my own mind where no one else hears my thoughts. Such as......
Did you know this is what my baby looked like when she was 9 months old?
For several years I have said that I believe her brows are too low as a result of her 2nd craniofacial surgery because of how much bone was moved around. That is one of the reasons why they did brow implants in 2010. It helped a little, but the implants don't extend far enough toward the ears to lift the area that needed it most. The surgeon agreed that the eyebrow (hair) is in fact below the brow(bone). He is going to write a letter to the craniofacial surgeon recommending a brow lift. In addition one of Ainsley's eyes was stitched together tighter than the other and it has created a little pinching at the corner causing the eyelashes to turn in on each other and that eye looks a little smaller than the other. Though the surgeon offered electrolysis I really don't want her to loose another s-i-n-g-l-e lash, so he good-naturedly agreed to slit the corner during the brow lift (if we do it) to release those lashes.