Sep 17, 2013

The Grass Is Greener

Do you often feel like the grass is always greener on the other side (of the fence)? I think it is human nature. At least I hope so because I often catch myself thinking that way.

During the school year summer sounds so lovely. I think I romanticize the idea of what it will be and forget about the cooking and cleaning and dream of the fun things I'll do. The reality of being home all day caring for 3's not so much a "vacation".

As summer draws to a close I am usually ready for the kids to go back to school. Then when they do I think "How could I have forgotten how much work this is?!" Forms coming out my ears, the morning rush, packing up all Ainsley's special stuff to send her off with the nurses, homework, after school activities, squeezing in therapies and "at-home-therapies". Yes it is nice that when they are gone I have time to pick up, do laundry, errands, grocery shopping etc. Throw in e-mails to doctors and teachers etc....A miscellaneous project or two and the hours before the first kid comes home are gone but I like being able to get those things done without feeling like I'm ignoring the kids.

There is good and bad in both. Every lawn has it's dandelion and clover, it's just that it's harder to see from the other side of the fence.

My last two weeks have been like this......
I love my coffee. When I go to microwave my cold coffee and find yesterday's cold coffee well THAT is a sure sign that somethings not right. 
I realized after my last post that I probably can't show you too many pictures from the magazine photoshoot since the issue isn't due to come out until summer 2014 and I don't want to be a spoiler. When it does, I'll post official pictures. It was interesting to be a fly on the wall. Our house is pretty ideally designed to do something like this with a minimal disturbance (garage for storage, gate for entry, a bathroom near the garage away from the rest of the house, a covered area to keep their stuff dry if it rained which it did). I was really glad the kids weren't at home. Penny hated having them here so I couldn't let her outside. All in all it was a good experience, though a distraction for sure.
The crew needed access to my bathroom (which is in the laundry room) so when they finally left on the 9th it was major laundry catch up time for me. I sort on the floor, I don't know about you. I just didn't want them walking in on THIS. 

They used a lot of potted plants, and bought plants they never used, so I agreed to take them. It would be a shame to throw them away. Unfortunately I couldn't keep their pots so I had to buy my own. Since they paid us a rental fee I used some of that money (that I don't have yet) toward pots (I'm trying to look at it as free potted plants.). The local nursery had them for 30% off. Yay! These are what was left AFTER potting everything.

We realized after watching their set design that our yard could really use some pots with flowers. I don't have a ton of time for watering so I hope I don't regret it.

I repositioned the pots I already had and I think all the changes are a definite improvement.

After the potting work was done I cooked a late dinner outside. It might have been the one and only time all summer other than our 4th of July barbecue that I used the outdoor burners. It makes cooking more fun. I need to do it more often.

I was so excited that I actually got some green beans off my plants(this was the whole crop). My first seedlings died and these were planted late in the season so I thought I wouldn't get any.
Eating outside (in the dark) as a family was a nice way to finish off the summer.

We even lit candles. I don't know why I don't do that more often, they make an ordinary night special.

The crew hung lanterns off the pergola with wires and left us the wire. We already had these lanterns and I simply hung them with wire. They went from clutter on the countertop to a nice accent.

I had other end of season vegetables to use up. I had used some tomatoes to make turkey chili, and was thrilled when Ainsley finished her bowl! Later in the week I finished off the greens and we ate the last of our grapes and I've STILL got more tomatoes. (I highly recommend the black pots in a sunny location for tomatoes!)

Steve was on a 3 day business trip last week so I was on my own to try to prevent Evie from wearing this to school. We compromised but she did wear the short shorts with navy tights (for the one and only time, we agreed) with navy tights to de-emphasize the legs and with high tops intead of black boots. Should 12 year olds wear short shorts to school even with tights under them? Reminder to e-mail the school office.

 That night Evie washed her hair with olive oil and feigned ignorance and we got in our second fight in two days. She got to bed late (that always makes me mad) and then had to get up early to wash it out. In the process she woke me up at 5:30.

After being up at 6:15 the day before. I'm NOT a morning person. Yes, I know lots of you probably get up that early all the time. I hope you don't also stay up until 12-1 am regularly.

She is surely heading into her teenage years and my mother will finally get the last laugh. I've got it comin' to me.

I spent hours trying to repair our printer, cleaning the print head. Next step delete and reinstall drivers. After buying all the ink I just want it to work!

Ainsley came home from school with these broken blood vessels on her chest and we had no idea why. It is so frustrating at times, having a non-verbal child. There is no good way to ask the kind of questions that might give clues to what happened. Which makes me sad to think about. A few days later we think what happened was that she squeezed a ball tightly against her chest.  The girl is stronger than you'd think. The embroidery caused the pattern.
AND the wheelchair pin came out again. Completely this time. It was incredibly difficult to fix because with all the parts in place you can't see the hole the pin goes into, which doesn't line up because the frame is tweaked. Eventually I got it and foraged a part to replace the missing nut and hold it all together at least temporarily.

We did get a couple things done that have been on my wish list for the past 2 years.

The rusty basketball hoop got a coat of paint and it looks amazing.

And we got the garbage cans off the driveway. We'd planned to put down pavers but I just didn't want to wait any longer. It's crazy that it took us 2 1/2 years to do that.  It feels so great to get things done, no matter how small!

One of my nurses is on vacation and I attended school with Ainsley Monday. That was good because I was concerned that perhaps the work she was doing was above her (ie. a waste of her time). I'd considered hiring an educational consultant and have a few e-mails out. But after
 talking to the teachers I do think they have her interest at heart. It is a challenge though to meet these kids needs. All we can do is our best, knowing it won't be ideal. I'll be there 3 more full days during the next week so I think it will really help me figure things out. A good portion of the work needs to come from home. I just need to figure out how.

I've been e-mailing Ainsley's doctors and got a last minute appointment with her ENT. My nurse had car trouble so we went on our own. And it was great. He agreed to try the Botox again. I signed consent and got it scheduled for mid-October. We got a flu shot and Ainsley acted like it was the end of the world. Cried the whole 20 miles home and then some. Sheesh she's had milder reactions to surgeries.  On the positive side she ASKED to eat at the cafeteria (using that special Mommy/Ainsley special code of talking) and she really ATE. A few potatoes from soup, a couple pieces of shell pasta, a bit of cheese, and quite a lot of oyster crackers. I was SO proud of her!

In addition I purchase my PLANE ticket to California. I'm taking some mommy respite days for the first time EVER, meeting up with some other SN moms from around the country. I can't wait! 

1 comment:

  1. I love your blog and your mommy-ness. My son has autism and he is 6, he will be 7 in December.
    Yes, the grass seems greener always on the other side but that makes me feel so bad, victim like. And then I go in a downward spiral.
    What I do is write down, each morning and each night, three things that I am grateful for.
    Another questions, how did you make your banner?
    My nonverbal child wrote that he wants to name his school" wonderful academy" and I want to make a banner like that with him, for him for his homeschool( our home). Can you post a step by step?
    Also my daughter who is 9 is now completely crazy about Harry Potter and we got several ideas for a Halloween party from your post. I really hope this is just a phase, she seems to think that she is not a muggle and calls her little brother, little muggle-born.